The article reflects the results of experimental testing of the monitoring program focused on studying the specifics of the manifestation of paternity in modern parents. Having carried out a detailed analysis of works related to parenting issues (studies by V.V. Abramenkova, A.I. Antonov, V.V. Boyko, V.I. Brutman, A.I. Zakharova, S.Yu. Meshcheryakova, R.V. Ovcharova, V.A. Petrovsky, N.Yu. Sinyagina, G.G. Filippova, A.G. Kharcheva; D. Bassin, E. Galinsky, M. Honey, M. Kaplan, etc.) by parenting we mean complex complex psychological education, which includes a set of value orientations of the parent, his attitudes, expectations, feelings and attitudes towards children, parental responsibility, as well as the style of family education. Since we consider positive emotions and feelings of parents towards their children as the basis of responsible and positive parenting, we tend to say that responsible parenting presupposes, first of all, the awareness of oneself as a parent not only as a woman (mother), but also a man - a father (this conclusion is based on the analysis of the research of T.B. Belyaeva, Y.V. Evsenkova, E.V. Krichevskaya, I.S. Kon, I.V. Rybalko, etc.). Summarizing the research results (works by E.A. Abrosimova, T.V. Arkhireeva, Yu.V. Borisenko, E.P. Ilyin, B.I. Kochubei, R.V. Ovcharova, T.A. Ponomareva, A.G. Portnova, N.V. Fedorova, G.G. Filippova, etc.) we can say that in families where fathers are responsible for the role of "parent" and fully perform their social functions (take care of children, are actively involved in their life, are systematically engaged in their upbringing), - children are distinguished by more harmonious development, they adapt more easily in society, they have fewer difficulties associated with their gender identification. At the same time, according to a number of scientists (works of S. Gampert, R. Horst, W.E. Fthenakis; Yu.V. Borisenko, Yu.V. Evseenkova, Yu.A. Latysheva, L.V. Russkikh, A.S. Spivakovskaya etc.), the educational position of the father in its formation lags behind the mother's position. The monitoring program developed by us, which included the author's questionnaire “I and my child”, M. Rokeach's methodology “Value orientations”, D. Olson's test methods “Real family”, “Ideal family”, as well as the parenting style questionnaire ACB E.G. Eidemiller and V.V. Yustitskisa is aimed at a detailed study of responsible parenthood and, as a consequence, the implementation by them of their most important social role of "parent".